Dream interpretation was important for healing
and problem solving in primitive and ancient
cultures all over the world (Aztec, Babylonian,
Egyptian, Greek, Roman, Hindu, Chinese, etc.).
Some of the earliest books, on cuneiform
clay tablets in Assyria, were guides to dream
interpretation. It played an important role
in Christianity until Thomas Aquinas emphasized
reason in the 1200s. Even today, many people
in India, Greece, Lebanon, and some North
African countries perform rituals requesting
dreams for advice or healing and pay for
dream interpretations or advice on healing
rituals suggested by dreams.
Dreams sometimes lead to scientific discoveries
or masterpieces of creativity. Albert Einstein
considered his whole career and his theory
of relativity to relate to a strikingly beautiful
dream during adolescence about sledding faster
and faster until the stars distorted into
a dazzling array of patterns and colors.
Elias Howe had been trying unsuccessfully
to design a sewing machine until he had a
nightmare. When he woke up, he realized the
spears used against him by hostile tribesmen
in the dream, like the design of the needles
needed by the sewing machine, had holes near
their points. The chemist Friedrich August
von Kekule struggled for years with the structure
of aromatic carbon compounds until he dreamt
of atoms whirling in a circle and discovered
their molecular ring structure, revolutionizing
organic chemistry. Dreams helped Nobel prize
winners Niels Bohr to realize electrons in
an atom must follow specific, fixed paths
and Otto Loewi to discover the nervous system
uses chemicals to transmit information to
and from the brain. People reported Benjamin
Franklin found answers to difficult problems
in his dreams.
Samuel Taylor Coleridge wrote his masterpiece
poem "Kubla Khan" by describing
a sequence of magnificent visions in a dream,
and dreams inspired John Milton's Paradise
Lost. Robert Louis Stevenson often based
his adventure stories on dreams, sometimes
even dreaming successive installments night
after night. His most famous story based
on a dream was The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll
and Mr. Hyde. The painter Francisco Goya
had many nightmares and sometimes based his
paintings on them.
You can reduce the frequency of a recurring
nightmare or eliminate it in the following
way. First create a new dream based on it,
changing the action before it gets bad. If
a large dog growls and runs toward you in
the dark, make the street suddenly brighten
with plenty of lights and the owner call
the dog and befriend you, so you end up petting
and playing with the dog. Each night in bed,
practice deep relaxation techniques and then
visualize the new dream. With enough practice,
the nightmare will probably end the new way
and bother you less often or stop bothering
you.
There have been many systems of dream interpretation
in psychology and throughout history, but
most psychologists today prefer a flexible
approach that allows people to find their
own meanings in their dreams. This flexible
approach to dreams combines the insights
of Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung, and Frederick
(Fritz) Perls.
Collect your dreams as soon as you wake.
If you don't, you will quickly forget most
of the details. Even talking to someone for
just one minute will interfere with your
ability to remember details, unless you describe
the dream to the other person. Keep a tape
recorder or a notebook with a pen or pencil
right next to your bed and immediately record
any dreams every time you wake up. To avoid
disturbing other people at night, you may
want to write your dream on paper in the
dark and copy it in better form later. Write
your dream in the present tense to keep it
fresh and powerful. For example, use "I
ran ...", not "I was running ...".
Many psychologists believe repetitive dreams
may be repeated messages from the inner self
about a personal problem that persists, either
because you don't recognize it or because
you refuse to change. And many psychologists
believe strikingly beautiful or very emotional
dreams (happy, upsetting, etc.) may hold
important messages for you. Even if dreams
don't carry important symbolic messages about
conflicts, these kinds of dreams are ideal
for personal exploration because they are
interesting.
Begin your work on any dream by looking for
similarities between the events, feelings,
people, or behaviors in the dream and those
in your real life. Consider each of these
areas one at a time. What conflicts occur
in the dream? Do they remind you of any in
your past or present life? For example, a
violent attack on you in a dream might symbolize
the vicious lie someone recently told about
you. Do any of the events or feelings in
the dream remind you of other situations
in your past or present life? Dreams of threatening
forces chasing you, perhaps accompanied by
paralysis or an inability to run away, may
relate to unresolved fears.
Dreams about people you know may tell you
about that person or your relationship. For
example, dreaming a friend tells a lie or
a loved one hurts you may help you realize
the person is untrustworthy. Perhaps dreams
informing you of such things result from
clues in your life you had not particularly
noticed. People in your dreams can also symbolize
other people in your life or even parts of
yourself, however. Do any of the people in
the dream remind you of other people in your
life? Do any of the people in the dream remind
you of parts of your own personality? Do
any of the behaviors in the dream remind
you of things you or other people in your
life have done?
In the following dream, one person obviously
symbolizes another. While out of town on
a long business trip, a man learned that
a close friend back home had suddenly died.
Soon he had a dream in which his best friend
in adolescence had died and in which he was
crying and sympathizing with the upset family
of the deceased. Although the friend who
suddenly died had no family left, this dream
accurately portrayed the sharing of feelings
among friends he felt he had missed by being
out of town during the funeral.
Dreams often relate to recent events. Watching
a horror movie may cause a nightmare, or
a dream may relate to the day's events. Emotions
in a dream may parallel emotions in your
recent life. Keep striking events from your
day in mind when analyzing your dreams. Think
about recent arguments, troubling experiences,
problems with authority figures, etc.
Most dreams don't relate so clearly to people
in your life, recent events, or personal
conflicts, however. You will often have to
decipher the meaning of the dream images
as if they were a lost language. Dreams often
have several levels of meaning. One symbol,
element, or part of a dream may represent
two different ideas or two people in two
completely different meanings. Consider the
previous dream about the death of a man's
best friend in adolescence. Besides the meaning
noted above, if this man also felt the closeness
in the dream was greater than any closeness
or sharing in his life today, he might decide
the dream also serves as a graphic reminder
he shouldn't wait for a calamity to express
love and share feelings with his loved ones.
In this case, the close sharing with the
family of the deceased in the dream has two
separate meanings for him.
Explore your dreams with free association,
too. In this technique, you picture a dream
element and let your thoughts and feelings
wander freely onto other ideas or feelings
that you associate with the dream element.
Free association to dream elements often
tells you the subject matter of the dream.
For example, a woman had a dream about a
series of problems in trying to find a mansion
she had seen. Her free association to the
mansion in her dream resulted in the following
series of ideas: a fine home filled with
art treasures, a home for my soul filled
with beauty and love, Michael. This free
association quickly showed the mansion symbolized
her deceased husband. She decides, then,
the dream symbolizes the troubles she has
experienced in trying to find a new husband.
You can also find the meaning of dream elements
by making a list of their characteristics
and seeing what this list reminds you of.
For example, a man dreamt about eating a
peach with a kitten's face on the skin of
the peach. The kitten smiled and felt happy
about his eating it. Here is his list of
characteristics for a kitten: independent,
soft, warm, playful, and intelligent. Here
is his list of characteristics for a peach:
wet, juicy, tangy, soft, round, and delicious.
These two lists together reminded him of
his girlfriend and told him the kitten and
peach symbolized his girlfriend.
Once you find what you feel is the subject
of a dream using similarities between the
dream and your real life, free association,
or lists of characteristics, study the rest
of the dream with these techniques for further
understanding. Other episodes in the dream
or other dreams may add further dimensions
to the basic feelings, ideas, or conflicts
you are exploring. For example, the woman's
dream about a series of problems finding
a mansion included various episodes that
she could explore with free association.
One seemingly unimportant dream segment involved
her landlord painting one of her chairs white
to brighten her apartment. She stopped him
and wiped the wet paint off the chair because
she preferred the natural wood. Remembering
that an old friend gave her the chair, she
concluded the chair symbolized Ron, a regular
date who reminded her of the old friend in
certain ways. The landlord's attempt to brighten
her apartment reminded her Ron truly did
brighten her life, but the unacceptable white
paint emphasized her feelings Ron's lifestyle
didn't fit her own. Thinking over these feelings,
she decided she should clearly define her
relationship with Ron as just a friendship
and not a romance. Removing the white paint
in the dream symbolized removing the romance
from the relationship.
Dialoguing also helps in exploring dreams.
You might ask a dream element who or what
it symbolizes, why it occurs or acts the
way it does, or what it means. You might
ask the whole dream what it means, says,
or wants you to change or do. You can ask
questions of feelings from dreams, allow
dream elements or parts to speak to you,
allow two dream elements or parts to argue
with one another, two people in the dream
to discuss issues with one another, or body
parts or body tension in the dream to talk.
Use "I" and the present tense to
identify with the dream part that speaks.
Imagine how the dream elements might feel
or think, and create an argument between
them. Be silly and experiment! Don't try
to be logical. Sometimes by letting go and
being silly and spontaneous, you can tap
real feelings or issues that you normally
don't pay attention to or normally hide or
bury.
Exaggerate and magnify views or emotions
you find in each part of the dialogue. Do
these parts remind you of parts of yourself?
If so, dialogue with the parts of yourself
to explore the conflict. Experiment with
the opposite side of each view or emotion.
Is this a neglected or buried part of yourself?
Whenever a dialogue reminds you of any other
feeling, issue, situation, or person in your
past or present life, you can switch to a
new dialogue based on that, dialoguing for
hours on one dream.
Ideally, you should use all the above
techniques
and work with many of your dreams.
Feel free
to switch around among the various
techniques.
Be sure to switch to another technique
when
your work seems fruitless. Working
with a
variety of dreams opens many more possibilities
for personal exploration than does
working
with one or a few dreams. Even when
working
on only one problem issue in your life,
various
dreams help you see more facets of
the issue,
so working with a whole series of dreams
helps you see the situation more completely.
Feel free to occasionally spend days
working
on one particularly interesting dream
with
a variety of techniques. Dreams can
hold
many levels of meanings and you can
study
one dream to explore many different
personal
issues, one at a time.
You are the final judge of whether any dream
interpretation is correct or helpful. Correct
dream interpretations promote growth and
feel relevant to your life, meaningful, helpful,
and alive. Incorrect dream interpretations
feel boring, doubtful, meaningless, pointless,
and dead. If your dream work feels difficult
or frustrating, you may be struggling with
the burden of an incorrect dream interpretation
or you may be tackling important personal
issues you need to face. If you then interpret
the dream correctly, however, the dream work
will feel relevant, important, striking,
or alive.
Dreams may directly reflect your personality
and issues in your life. Teenagers may dream
about dating problems, college students who
work very hard for good grades may dream
about problems in preparing for class tests,
and sexually promiscuous people may dream
about flirting and sex. Dreams can also compensate
for things that are missing or buried in
your personality. For example, people with
few sexual feelings in real life may dream
about sex, or unassertive people who try
too hard to always show kindness may dream
about mean acts or acts of aggression.
We can easily see when dreams directly reflect
our own personalities, but most people find
it difficult to recognize and admit when
dreams vent buried impulses. Consider both
possibilities. Ask yourself if you might
neglect or bury emotions or behaviors that
come out in you or others in your dreams.
If so, you may need to incorporate the neglected
or buried parts of yourself in socially acceptable
ways in your waking life.
Dreams about people we don't know or don't
know well or people from the past we don't
keep in touch with any more, usually symbolize
parts of ourselves, other people in our lives,
strangers, authority figures, lifestyles,
or principles. Dreams about people we were
very close to a long time ago often symbolize
parts of ourselves that are like that person.
Dreams about anonymous children may symbolize
playful or growing parts of ourselves or
parts that need development or remain stuck
with childhood conflicts. Dreams about dead
people or people from the past sometimes
identify unfinished feelings or issues concerning
those people that need further work and exploration.
Most animals in dreams are symbolic, except
for dreams about animals that play an important
role in your present life. The wilderness
may represent your instincts or natural,
animal self. Houses and rooms in dreams often
symbolize your inner mental world, personality,
marriage, or interpersonal relationships.
The front yard may be your public self and
the back yard may be the deeper, hidden parts
of you. Vehicles (cars, trucks, trains, etc.)
often symbolize the direction and energy
in your life, or perhaps the direction in
which a relationship is going. For example,
problems in dreams such as a truck going
out of control or a car or train accident
may indicate problems in your goals, behaviors,
feelings, or relationships.
Review all your dreams occasionally, looking
for subjects, feelings, or conflicts that
occur repeatedly, for patterns, and for change
and development. Compiling lists of symbolic
meanings from dreams can help you keep track
of your own personal dream symbols and how
they evolve. Devote one page to each important
symbol or action in your dreams. Every time
the symbol or action appears in your dreams,
add another note to the page listing the
date and describing the meaning of the symbol
in that dream. You may want to create paintings
or drawings based on dreams. |